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You will find the ability and hope to change the direction of your life. You will realize that God has given you an opportunity to have hope, peace, comfort, and happiness. You'll be learning to have a life reaching to please your mate. Big smiles are getting ready to become a part of your life.
You cannot control your mate and find real happiness. You can control your actions to your mate and believe me by controlling your reactions you are preparing a better marriage connection. Don't fear to verbalize and vocalize to your mate things that irk or upset you. When facing things when they are small, you are most likely to overcome them faster and better. Read through our web site, I am sure you will gain strength in having a better, sweeter and more enjoyable marriage.
It s often amazing that it takes us so many times of repeating a lesson to really learn it or know the true value of the point. Often in marriage we have to learn so many new discoveries about each other. It isn't always easy for a couple that are even quite compatible to truly learn to really appreciate the thoughts and tasks done by each other. And often the thoughts or tasks may even be misunderstood. This is why I believe that couples should not just have pre-marital counseling yet also post-marital counseling. It isn't necessary to always seek others for the counseling just "Voice-out" to your spouse. The most important things to remember are that you take turns listening and then repeat in your own words what you've heard. Do not talk in an angry voice. Do not try to blame. Just trying to discuss your issues in a calm manner can help so much in making a stronger and happier marriage. So often we assume things by taking time out we can truly change the direction we are going. Marriage matters can be difficult to bring up yet if your marriage is something that matters to you it is well worth the time and effort on both of your parts.
The best way to make your married life happy is to find what is needed to be a good husband and how a woman can succeed as a wife. God wants your married life to be happy. When each spouse fulfills their roles in harmony with God's counsel, the results are very satisfying. When God created the first humans, Adam and Eve, He brought them together as husband and wife. He put them into the garden of Eden. Read Genesis 1:26-28;2:18,21-24. Although we face many problems in marriage and life we must realize most married people are not living as God purposed it to be. Each spouse can help to make their married life happier by imitating God in showing love. Read Ephesians 5:1,2. Therefore, by learning about the love that Jesus showed and following his example, each one of us can help to make our married life happier. The Bible gives a model for husbands when it says that husbands should treat their wives in the same way that Jesus treats his disciples. Read Ephesians 5:23-29. In this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. When he loves his wife he loves himself and he doesn't hate his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it like the Lord loves the church. Jesus true love for his congregation of disciples sets a perfect example for husbands. When Jesus loved them even though they were far from perfect. Similarly, husbands are urged to keep on loving their wives and not be bitter against them. Read Colossians 3:19. What will help a husband to apply such counsel, especially if his wife at times fails to act with discretion? He should remember his own mistakes and what he must do to receive God's forgiveness. What is that? He must forgive those who sin against him, and that includes his wife. Of course, she should do the same. Read Matthew 6:12,14, &15. Do you see why some have said that a successful marriage is the union of two good forgivers? Husbands also do well to note that Jesus always showed consideration for his disciples. He took into account their limitations and physical needs. When they were tired, for example, he told them to go to a private and lonely place and rest for awhile. Read Mark 6:30-32. Wives too deserve thoughtful consideration. The Bible describes them as "a weaker vessel" to whom husbands are commanded to assign "honor." Why? Because both husbands and wives share equally in the grace of life. Read I Peter 3:7. Husbands should remember that it is faithfulness not whether a person is male or female, that makes one precious to God. Read Psalms 101:6. The Bible says that a husband who loves his wife loves himself. This is because a man and his wife are no longer two, but one flesh as Jesus pointed out. Read Matthew 19:6. There is an example for wives as they should remember that the family is an organization, and to operate smoothly, it needs a head. Jesus' submission to God's headship is a fine example, since all of us have a head to whom we must submit. Read I Corinthians 11:3. Imperfect men make mistakes and often fall far short of being ideal family heads. So what should a wife do? She should not belittle what her husband does or try to take over his headship. A wife does well to remember that in God's view, a quiet and mild spirit is of great value. Read I Peter 3:4. By displaying such a spirit, she will find it easier to demonstrate godly subjection, even under trying circumstances. Furthermore, the Bible says that a wife should reverance her husband. This means to honor him. The Bible urges wives to be in subjection to their husband. In order that, if any are not obedient to the word, they may be won without a word through the conduct of their wives, because of having been eyewitnesses of your chaste conduct together with deep respect. Read I Peter 3:1,2. Whether her husband is a fellow believer or not, a wife is not showing disrespect if she tactfully expresses an opinion that differs from his. Her viewpoint may be correct, and the whole family could benefit if he listens to her. Of course, when a husband makes a final decision that does not conflict with God's law, his wife shows her subjection by supporting it. Read Ephesians 5:24. In fulfilling her role, a wife can do much in caring for the family. For example, the Bible shows that married women are to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home and obedient to their own husbands. Read Titus 2:4,5. A wife and mother who acts in this way will gain the lasting love and respect of her family. Read Proverbs 31:10,28. Since marriage is a union of imperfect individuals, however, some extreme circumstances may result in separation or divorce. The Bible allows for separation under certain circumstances. Yet, separation must not be taken lightly, for the Bible counsels that a wife should not depart from her husband and if she did depart she should remain unmarried or return to her husband. And a husband should not leave his wife and put her away. Read I Corinthians 7: 10,11. And only fornication by one of the marriage mates provides scriptural grounds for a divorce. Read Matthew 19:9. Marriage matters when both spouses are willing to communicate so that their marital connection is a long-lasting one as well as a loving one. It is well worth all the time and effort you both can give to make your marriage be the best it can possibly be. Also having a spiritually blest commitment is a marriage in which a couple are more bonded and are more capable of becoming stronger in keeping their marriage not only happier yet truly what God intended marriage to be.
It is often amazing that it takes us so many times of repeating a lesson to really learn it or know the true value of the point. Often in marriage we have to learn so many new discoveries about each other. It isn't always easy for a couple that are even quite compatible to truly learn to really appreciate the thoughts and tasks done by each other. And often the thoughts or tasks may even be misunderstood. This is why I believe that couples should not just have pre-marital counseling yet also post-marital counseling. It isn't necessary to always seek others for the counseling just "Voice-out" to your spouse. The most important things to remember are that you take turns listening and then repeat in your own words what you've heard. Do not talk in an angry voice. Do not try to blame. Just trying to discuss your issues in a calm manner can help so much in making a stronger and happier marriage. So often we assume things by taking time out we can truly change the direction we are going. Marriage matters can be difficult to bring up yet if your marriage is something that matters to you it is well worth the time and effort on both of your parts.
The best way to make your married life happy is to find what is needed to be a good husband and how a woman can succeed as a wife. God wants your married life to be happy. When each spouse fulfills their roles in harmony with God's counsel, the results are very satisfying. When God created the first humans, Adam and Eve, He brought them together as husband and wife. He put them into the garden of Eden. Read Genesis 1:26-28;2:18,21-24. Although we face many problems in marriage and life we must realize most married people are not living as God purposed it to be. Each spouse can help to make their married life happier by imitating God in showing love. Read Ephesians 5:1,2. Therefore, by learning about the love that Jesus showed and following his example, each one of us can help to make our married life happier. The Bible gives a model for husbands when it says that husbands should treat their wives in the same way that Jesus treats his disciples. Read Ephesians 5:23-29. In this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. When he loves his wife he loves himself and he doesn't hate his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it like the Lord loves the church. Jesus true love for his congregation of disciples sets a perfect example for husbands. When Jesus loved them even though they were far from perfect. Similarly, husbands are urged to keep on loving their wives and not be bitter against them. Read Colossians 3:19. What will help a husband to apply such counsel, especially if his wife at times fails to act with discretion? He should remember his own mistakes and what he must do to receive God's forgiveness. What is that? He must forgive those who sin against him, and that includes his wife. Of course, she should do the same. Read Matthew 6:12,14, &15. Do you see why some have said that a successful marriage is the union of two good forgivers? Husbands also do well to note that Jesus always showed consideration for his disciples. He took into account their limitations and physical needs. When they were tired, for example, he told them to go to a private and lonely place and rest for awhile. Read Mark 6:30-32. Wives too deserve thoughtful consideration. The Bible describes them as "a weaker vessel" to whom husbands are commanded to assign "honor." Why? Because both husbands and wives share equally in the grace of life. Read I Peter 3:7. Husbands should remember that it is faithfulness not whether a person is male or female, that makes one precious to God. Read Psalms 101:6. The Bible says that a husband who loves his wife loves himself. This is because a man and his wife are no longer two, but one flesh as Jesus pointed out. Read Matthew 19:6. There is an example for wives as they should remember that the family is an organization, and to operate smoothly, it needs a head. Jesus' submission to God's headship is a fine example, since all of us have a head to whom we must submit. Read I Corinthians 11:3. Imperfect men make mistakes and often fall far short of being ideal family heads. So what should a wife do? She should not belittle what her husband does or try to take over his headship. A wife does well to remember that in God's view, a quiet and mild spirit is of great value. Read I Peter 3:4. By displaying such a spirit, she will find it easier to demonstrate godly subjection, even under trying circumstances. Furthermore, the Bible says that a wife should reverance her husband. This means to honor him. The Bible urges wives to be in subjection to their husband. In order that, if any are not obedient to the word, they may be won without a word through the conduct of their wives, because of having been eyewitnesses of your chaste conduct together with deep respect. Read I Peter 3:1,2. Whether her husband is a fellow believer or not, a wife is not showing disrespect if she tactfully expresses an opinion that differs from his. Her viewpoint may be correct, and the whole family could benefit if he listens to her. Of course, when a husband makes a final decision that does not conflict with God's law, his wife shows her subjection by supporting it. Read Ephesians 5:24. In fulfilling her role, a wife can do much in caring for the family. For example, the Bible shows that married women are to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home and obedient to their own husbands. Read Titus 2:4,5. A wife and mother who acts in this way will gain the lasting love and respect of her family. Read Proverbs 31:10,28. Since marriage is a union of imperfect individuals, however, some extreme circumstances may result in separation or divorce. The Bible allows for separation under certain circumstances. Yet, separation must not be taken lightly, for the Bible counsels that a wife should not depart from her husband and if she did depart she should remain unmarried or return to her husband. And a husband should not leave his wife and put her away. Read I Corinthians 7: 10,11. And only fornication by one of the marriage mates provides scriptural grounds for a divorce. Read Matthew 19:9. Marriage matters when both spouses are willing to communicate so that their marital connection is a long-lasting one as well as a loving one. It is well worth all the time and effort you both can give to make your marriage be the best it can possibly be. Also having a spiritually blest commitment is a marriage in which a couple are more bonded and are more capable of becoming stronger in keeping their marriage not only happier yet truly what God intended marriage to be.
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